A nightmare? No, the menopause was the BEST thing that ever happened to us | Mail Online
“Like most women, Monica had dreaded her middle-age milestone. She believed that the menopause would cause her to lose her sex drive, her sparkle and her memory. And with the arrival of hot flushes and mood swings, she feared she’d lose every shred of femininity.
‘I was convinced that I’d turn into an old crone over night - it’s what we’ve all been made to think,’ she says. ‘In fact, exactly the opposite has happened.
‘I’ve got more energy and more confidence than I’ve ever had before. And I’ve become so much more daring.” …
Monica is one of a growing band of women who are convinced the menopause is the best thing that has ever happened to them.
Far from losing their zip, they swear that the menopause has actually given them a totally new lease of life. Internet sites and forums are alive with postings from women asking what’s wrong with them, because the menopause is such a breeze.
Others boast of wonderful freedom it has given them - not having to worry about monthly cycles, for example. …
So why does the menopause - which is deemed to start after a woman has not had a period for 12 months - get such a shocking press normally? And why do so many women say they hate it?
Louise Foxcroft, author of Hot Flushes, Cold Science, a book exploring the history of the menopause, is convinced that it’s down to the Victorians.
‘Until the 18th century, the menopause was seen as a natural phenomenon. But over the next 100 years it began to be viewed as a disease, leading to bizarre treatments and extremely dangerous surgery,’ she says. ‘The Victorians were deeply suspicious of women’s reproductive health. They thought there was a direct link between the womb and the brain which predisposed women to insanity, particularly during menopause.’
Even now, studies into the effects of the menopause all start from the assumption that women are going to feel worse not better.
‘It’s a peculiarly Western attitude,’ says professor Mary Ann Lumsden, chair of the British Menopause Society. ‘In India, women have the same symptoms but they regard the menopause as a very positive experience, because getting old gives them more status, not less.
‘Here, most women enter the menopause with dread - as that’s the message we’ve been given. In fact, a lot of women don’t even realise they have gone through the menopause.
‘Only 25 per cent of women will report symptoms such as hot flushes, vaginal dryness, mood swings and aches and pains. And in 85 per cent of women, these dissipate naturally within a few years.
‘So much of it is down to expectations and what’s going on in your head. We are very suggestible. I have done countless trials where up to 30 per cent of the women, who didn’t know they’d been prescribed a placebo instead of HRT, claim they have got better even though there’s no medical reason for their improvement.
‘They believed the drug was working so they felt more positive. Of course symptoms can be bad, but if you enter the menopause with the mind set that you will get through fine, you really will be helping yourself.’”
—-What a refreshing article. I can’t see something like this ever being printed in the U.S. In fact, I can’t see anything positive about women’s reproductive health being printed in mainstream media in the U.S. It’s so nice to hear about menopause from an optimistic angle … since it’s an essential part of the life cycle of half the human race, and all.
Check out more inspiring stories of women changing their lives at midlife in the full story.
One last quote, this one from Caroline Moor, interviewed in the story:
“I used to be such a wimp that my friends and family can’t believe it.
‘I really love pushing the boundaries, and I honestly feel that I’m capable of doing anything now. I’m the first of my friends to go through the menopause. They’re stunned. Like me, they believed the menopause catapults you into premature old age. But I’m now convinced a lot of it’s down to attitude.
‘I feel infinitely more sexy and confident now and far more carefree.”